Identity Crisis?

My hair is purple, right in the front. It’s been blonde, even red, but purple…it’s kind of my thing. It’s fun. I get compliments on it all the time. People ask me questions about it, too. Is it permanent? (Yes.) Do you do it yourself? (Heck no.) Does your husband like it? (Yes.) Is itContinue reading “Identity Crisis?”

Open heart. Open mind.

You know what people do? They opinion shop. They feel-good shop. They justify shop. They comeraderie shop. Not only does misery love company, but so does contentment. People are out shopping for connectedness. They want to feel good about themselves and their choices. They want to be agreed with and supported by other folks goingContinue reading “Open heart. Open mind.”

You Asked How I’m Doing

Hi, I am Amanda, and I get emotional when someone sends me a message to ask how I’m doing. Crazy, right?! I am so focused on accomplishing big things, supporting people, and pushing kids into the spotlight. I am busy trying to make people’s lives easier, coming up with processes and procedures to lubricate aContinue reading “You Asked How I’m Doing”

Recovering People Pleaser, Part 4

Let me tell you what happens when a People Pleaser gets ruffled. We freak out inside. Yep, immediately there are 57 windows open in our brain at the same time, each one dedicated to finding the source of what we did wrong, how we can fix it, and when bending over backwards to change willContinue reading “Recovering People Pleaser, Part 4”

Recovering People Pleaser, Part 3

I run a dance studio, right? It’s our tenth year, and I’m over the moon about the success of the place. When I opened, I thought I would teach dance…nope. It turned out to be so much more than that – love and family, challenges and triumphs, growth and determination, connections and friendships. The studioContinue reading “Recovering People Pleaser, Part 3”

Recovering People Pleaser, Part 2

Tales of the Recovering People Pleaser continue as I work to shed the idea that my worth is conditional. If you missed my last post, go see it, and ride the wave with me toward peace…at least let’s hope. People Pleasing is awful. Do not recommend. So yep, I got a tattoo. You know, BoomersContinue reading “Recovering People Pleaser, Part 2”

Recovering People Pleaser, Part 1

People Pleasers notice things. They quickly recognize when someone approves of them…or disapproves. Then we…I mean, they…ok, it’s ME, I’m the People Pleaser…immediately make the connection between what we did or said with why the other person liked or didn’t like us. Immediately. People Pleasers think being liked, loved, accepted, praised, or even disliked, hated,Continue reading “Recovering People Pleaser, Part 1”

20 Ways To Love Yourself

1) Don’t respond to that email, text, or phone call. 2) Let that housework wait; it will still be there later. 3) Take a shower, smell good, and show up with your chin up. 4) Say “no” with a smile, because you really are too busy to take on another thing. 5) Don’t put upContinue reading “20 Ways To Love Yourself”

New Year…and my name is Wes.

“My name is Wes. I ain’t in this mess.” Keith and I heard somebody say this a few years ago (I think on TV), and it stuck. We’ve used it occasionally since then, mostly in jest, but lately, it’s become sort of a mantra. And I’m here for it. If 2021 was “my year” forContinue reading “New Year…and my name is Wes.”

I’m not responsible! OMG!

Hi, I’m Amanda, and I’m not responsible for making other people happy. Oh my gosh, I said it! If you’re a people pleaser, you get it. If you’re busy about entertaining folks, cleaning up so everything is nice, and making 3 different dinners to keep the fam happy, you get it. If you’re reading thisContinue reading “I’m not responsible! OMG!”